The power of love and how it helps you to live a happier life

When we think of love, we often think of happily ever after, an ideal we learned as small children watching Disney's fairytale movies. Our happiness is often linked to love from another, where we look for acceptance, understanding, and a sense of belonging.

But surely, it's important to love ourselves too? If we can learn to love and accept who we are, we will be better placed to love others deeply, too. When we don't love ourselves, we can fall prey to negative emotions like envy and resentment. Now, that's not to say that if you don't love yourself, no one will love you, of course not! Often, it's our partner, family, and friends who see our best qualities clearer than we do, but relationships built on a foundation of self-love will likely be stronger than those built on a need for love from others. 

In Mo Gawdat's book Solve for Happy, he writes, 'studies show that only 4 percent of women in Western societies believe they are beautiful, and more than 60 percent believe they need to be thinner to deserve to be loved!' Changing how you see yourself and learning to love who you are can lead to a happier, more positive outlook on life and your relationships.

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT LOVING FEELINGS EBB AND FLOW 

Just as we sometimes find others annoying, we can also find ourselves annoying. You'll say or do things and wonder, 'what were you thinking?'. But when it comes to ourselves, we can often dwell on those moments, letting our inner critic run wild. Stop. Learn from it. And move on. In fact, why not try these mindfulness tips to help you live more in the moment?

AND REMEMBER, GIVING LOVE IS IMPORTANT TOO 

Once you start to be kinder to yourself, to love who you are, then you will be able to find it in yourself to give true love to others. If you give, you get back. The act of giving love can take on many different forms: kindness, empathy and compassion towards others and strangers. And when you start to spread and multiply goodness beyond your own circle of life, that's when you can experience authentic, well-rounded love. Love is the glue of all things positive, and it's the essence of life: without love, life is not meaningful. 

TODAY’S HAPPINESS TASK 

We love our children, and often our family, unconditionally, but do you love yourself unconditionally too? Try writing a list of the things you love about yourself and the things you don't, a list of pros and cons if you will. Now, imagine your favourite person in the whole world. If this list of cons described them, you would still love them, right? Could you start to strike off some of those things on the cons list because you're being too tough on yourself? Self-esteem and self-worth can come from challenging your negative self-doubts. We love our family and friends regardless, so isn't it about time you loved yourself that way too?  

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